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# [An Easy Trick to Stop Apologising!](https://blog.annamcdougall.com/an-easy-trick-to-stop-apologising?utm_source=hashnode&utm_medium=feed)

Have you ever met someone who kept apologising for every question or favour they asked? Perhaps you are that person and you can hear yourself saying "sorry" over and over again for basic and normal requests which really don't need an apology. It is a...

Aug 10, 2020 · 2 min read · blog.annamcdougall.com  
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[Kiran Iyer](https://hashnode.com/@Memphis1983)

[Nov 20, 2020](https://hashnode.com/posts/an-easy-trick-to-stop-apologising/5f3137f2273a577b50ca63e3/comment/5fb7ff920ae19203f6d91ee1)

It's a wonderful article, especially for those who struggle with it, this simple read can help make that conscious effort to bring that change into interactions. Also, it was an amazing event [Anna J McDougall](https://hashnode.com/@AnnaJMcDougall) very insightful, especially with your lively, jolly and active presence packed with laughter 😂. I've also watched your session with Francesco and loved every second of it, 1 hour video seemed like blink of an eye 😁. Wish you the very best in all your future endeavors. Stay healthy and safe ♥

[Chris Nagy](https://hashnode.com/@chris_the_nagy)

[Aug 12, 2020](https://hashnode.com/posts/an-easy-trick-to-stop-apologising/5f3137f2273a577b50ca63e3/comment/5f33c3ec2a23d9080d17a581)

This is SO important! I've been seeing such a positive change since eliminating starting with "sorry to bother you" or similar. It subconsciously puts the one who says that into a "lower" class in both parties' minds IMO, needlessly. I've **_very rarely_** thought that someone was bothering me when they just DMed me a question, but them leading with _"sorry"_ automatically triggers negative emotions in me subconsciously. If the question would indeed bother me however, saying sorry would not help anyways.

My default is that I want to help you when you turn to me, don't undermine it for yourself - and I think that applies to a lot of people. Don't ask the broadest questions tho, do some research and hone in on an exact problem. That's how you can get help effectively and that's how people will want to help you. Or at least that has been my meandering experience🙃

[Luiz Filipe da Silva](https://hashnode.com/@luizfilipezs)

[Aug 11, 2020](https://hashnode.com/posts/an-easy-trick-to-stop-apologising/5f3137f2273a577b50ca63e3/comment/5f32ce4b2a23d9080d179e29)

Your tips are really useful. Sometimes I realize that I apologize even though I do things that people like (lol). Thanks for sharing!

[Anna J McDougall](https://hashnode.com/@AnnaJMcDougall)

[Aug 11, 2020](https://hashnode.com/posts/an-easy-trick-to-stop-apologising/5f3137f2273a577b50ca63e3/comment/5f32ce4b2a23d9080d179e29#reply-5f32dfe22a23d9080d179ee8)

Haha yes! I've been there and even when you really 'hear yourself' it is so hard to break. Definitely keep practicing this tip: it is easier to start with written stuff (e.g. emails) and then integrate it into spoken communication.

[Edidiong Asikpo (Didi)](https://hashnode.com/@didicodes)

[Aug 11, 2020](https://hashnode.com/posts/an-easy-trick-to-stop-apologising/5f3137f2273a577b50ca63e3/comment/5f32c95d2a23d9080d179ce5)

This is definitely an important conversation to start. I honestly think a lot of people need to improve on this and read this article. Thanks for sharing [Anna J McDougall](https://hashnode.com/@AnnaJMcDougall).

[Anna J McDougall](https://hashnode.com/@AnnaJMcDougall)

[Aug 11, 2020](https://hashnode.com/posts/an-easy-trick-to-stop-apologising/5f3137f2273a577b50ca63e3/comment/5f32c95d2a23d9080d179ce5#reply-5f32dffe2a23d9080d179ef6)

Thanks Edidiong! I really appreciate your support.