Gabor, the reason behind I wrote this blog, is because the answer lies in the way we seek answer from the question itself. Ex: Say your Girl friend is keep nagging you for coming late all the time, instead of cribbing about the fact that your girlfriend is scolding, ask the question to yourself "What is it that I must do to avoid get scolding from my girlfriend" You must be thinking, If I be on time from next time, then she wont. But there are other answers too, Informed decision like you can inform your girl friend ahead of time if you are going to be late. Its ok! man it took me time and I will keep writing more. Thanks for your comment :)