Steve Jobs changed the world. That alone is enough for him to be called a legend.
That being said, I have always firmly believed that being nice to people is an important virtue.
It's not that Steve Jobs became rude to people overnight. He was an aggressive go-getter right from day 1, when Apple Inc. used to functioned out of Job's father's garage. Also, most Silicon Valley/Seattle legends are known to be aggressive. Elon Musk. Jeff Bezos. Travis Kalanick. Jack Dorsey. All known to be very very demanding.
Now, are these guys assholes? Well, there are certain lines you shouldn't cross in life. From whatever I've read about Jobs and Bezos, I believe that they're assholes in terms of how they treated some of their employees.
So, do I respect them? I respect them for their good parts. I absolutely do not respect them for their bad parts.