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This is SO important! I've been seeing such a positive change since eliminating starting with "sorry to bother you" or similar. It subconsciously puts the one who says that into a "lower" class in both parties' minds IMO, needlessly. I've very rarely thought that someone was bothering me when they just DMed me a question, but them leading with "sorry" automatically triggers negative emotions in me subconsciously. If the question would indeed bother me however, saying sorry would not help anyways.
My default is that I want to help you when you turn to me, don't undermine it for yourself - and I think that applies to a lot of people. Don't ask the broadest questions tho, do some research and hone in on an exact problem. That's how you can get help effectively and that's how people will want to help you. Or at least that has been my meandering experience🙃
Your tips are really useful. Sometimes I realize that I apologize even though I do things that people like (lol). Thanks for sharing!
This is definitely an important conversation to start. I honestly think a lot of people need to improve on this and read this article. Thanks for sharing Anna J McDougall.
Kiran Iyer
Software Engineer
It's a wonderful article, especially for those who struggle with it, this simple read can help make that conscious effort to bring that change into interactions. Also, it was an amazing event Anna J McDougall very insightful, especially with your lively, jolly and active presence packed with laughter 😂. I've also watched your session with Francesco and loved every second of it, 1 hour video seemed like blink of an eye 😁. Wish you the very best in all your future endeavors. Stay healthy and safe ♥