I am in a similar situation (I still have undiagnosed ADHD) with two parents in healthcare who still don't believe me that I have always had and still have serious attention issues simply because I more often than not always find a way to do a little more than "get by".
I'm glad people like you continue to remain vocal about the struggles, realizations, and potential solutions for myself and other people who face a similar situation daily.
Throughout my entire life, I've found slow and hard-won understanding by failing many many times when trying to appropriate typical neurotypical approaches (heh) whilst always seeking to continually understand how my internal disposition was different.
Everyday I just try to improve the quality and rate of my "little wins" while hoping to build them into larger and larger successes over time.
I've personally found some of my solutions to be:
The information you laid out was easily identifiable, digestible and a fun read.
Thank you for sharing this quality post. :)